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Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

Are You Too Nice?

If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say "no" to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.

In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice. Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic ve

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  1. Anonymous says:
    512 of 518 people found the following review helpful
    5.0 out of 5 stars
    I was nice, divorced, depressed, and underpaid, November 17, 2017
    By 
    Dave Meindl (Cedar Falls, IA)

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    This review is from: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (Kindle Edition)
    It was probably the lowest point of my life. My business venture had failed because I wouldn’t ask for help. My wife and I lost our house. We were tens of thousands of dollars in debt. I was virtually broke because I had allowed myself to accept an insultingly low salary. My wife had had an affair and so we divorced. And I was so “nice” that I accepted 100% of the debt.

    All of this in the span of one year.

    For the next 5 years, I battled a deep depression.

    And yet, this was probably also the most important period of my life because it eventually led me to seek out help. I tried CBT. I tried therapy. In desperation, I even hired a pick up artist coach. It seems like nothing was ever going to help. I felt even more hopeless than ever.

    And then I found this Dr. Aziz guy that I’d never heard of before. But I thought, “What the heck. One more try.”

    Among the many things I learned through the wisdom taught in this book was how to speak up, how to ask for what I need, how to ask for what I want, how to stand up for what is fair and right, how to set boundaries, how to tell people no, and so much more.

    Now, I’ve broken the depression. I’m in an amazing relationship with the most beautiful and incredible girl. My salary has more than doubled. And whereas I used to keep my head down at work, I now regularly speak my mind and have become a trusted advisor to the owner of the company. In fact, I may be one of the most influential voices there.

    And seriously, I don’t know if I could have changed my life in this way without what I’ve learned from Dr. Aziz.

  2. Anonymous says:
    267 of 270 people found the following review helpful
    5.0 out of 5 stars
    Be Your Own #1 Advocate, November 16, 2017
    By 
    S.Webb

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    This review is from: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (Kindle Edition)
    There have been a number of best selling books recently that speak words of wisdom of how to not give a F— in order to be free and live the good life. What those books leave out are the internal thought patterns that trap people in their heads and causes them to be nice to others even at their own expense.

    At first glance, ‘Not Nice’ appears to fit this pattern. Because only a jerk would want to not be nice to others right!? What makes Dr. Aziz’s approach different is that is explains in detail the reasons why we accommodate, appease, and seek people’s consideration and approval. The fact is we very much care about what people think of us and by pleasing others, giving them everything they want, and never creating discomfort, we will be accepted. Unfortunately, as many nice people know, always accommodating lowers your personal energy and leaves you drained. Eventually you become angry at others and yourself for allowing it to happen.

    Dr. Aziz lays out the reasons why we learned from an early age to be proper and respectful at times. It continues into adulthood where we experience anxiety and stress that consumes our social, romantic, and professional interactions. We become so pressured to be accepted by others that it manifests itself as physical symptoms that arise from this anxiety. Dr. Aziz shares his personal stories of anxiety causing symptoms because of the mental toll caused from always people-pleasing and always accommodating others. He lists the specific tools necessary to be your own #1 advocate and take better care of yourself without always feeling so guilt about this. Dr. Aziz makes it clear that making significant change takes direct action and consistency. Fortunately, he provides a multitude of case studies and scenarios to illustrate how to get started.

    In the second part of the book, Dr Aziz speaks on how to reshape your mentality and take action. It’s not about becoming mean or cold towards others. It’s about bringing your bold and authentic self into the light for others to appreciate. At the core of ‘Not Nice’ is a passionate plea to not compromise yourself in life. Only by acknowledging and accepting your thoughts and attitudes can you begin to advocate for yourself. I have noticed in my brief application of some techniques from this book, how people are surprised that I pushed back at a request or spoke for myself for a chance. The anxiety is still there but I feel better about it. Plus others respect me more than I thought they would.

    ‘Not Nice’ is an excellent and refreshing take on how to be your own best advocate. It’s well researched and contains a lot of material. But ultimately it’s just a guide; you still have to apply it in the real world consistently for it to work. If you are ready to step outside of your comfort zone to be a better you, this book is a great introduction.

  3. Anonymous says:
    139 of 142 people found the following review helpful
    5.0 out of 5 stars
    Excellent Book on Boundaries, December 28, 2017
    By 
    Jia (OZ)

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    This review is from: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (Kindle Edition)
    I’ve read all 3 of Aziz Gazipura’s books and they’re the best books out there for explaining the concept of boundaries and how they relate to different problems – social anxiety, confidence, and now people pleasing. The second half of this book is gold in my opinion.

    The concept of interpersonal boundaries is extremely important and there are a ton of authors out there that’ve tried to explain what it is – Henry Cloud, Mark Manson, etc. Bowen Family Systems theory uses the opposing concepts of Self-Differentiation and Fusion to explain good and bad relationship boundaries. Insecure Attachment Styles and Fantasy Bonds are basically the dynamics of bad boundaries as well. But nobody has done a better job of explaining boundaries and the thought processes involved in reinforcing good or bad boundaries than Gazipura. It’s not just an academic treatment; it’s easily actionable.

    And regarding how bad boundaries contributes to people pleasing, there’s a reason Robert Glover’s No More Mr Nice Guy is a popular Men’s Book. This book is along the lines of Glover’s book, with maybe a little less Freudian psychology / focus on upbringing, but with more focus on tackling what’s going on your head with these limiting beliefs and behaviors, why they’re flawed, and what to do about them.

    The guy also has a really good speaking voice so if you buy the Audiobook, it’s very easy to listen to.

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